How to Find Your G-Spot
It would be nice, wouldn’t it, if there were a literal button somewhere within the female anatomy to press, and voilà: instant, unbelievable orgasm. That’s the way the G-spot has often been described in popular culture — a “magic button” located within the vagina that, when stimulated, reliably makes women come.
“A spot that when touched creates an orgasm — who doesn’t want that!” says Jordan Rullo, PhD, a clinical health psychologist in Utah and a certified sex therapist at Flo Health. “If there simply were a spot that so easily led to orgasm, this would alleviate the frustration of many about how to help their women partners reach climax.”
In reality, experts say the truth about the G-spot is at once both more and less complex than the reputation it has earned over the years. On the one hand: There is indeed an area within the vagina that many women say leads to a pleasurable sensation, even orgasm, when touched.
On the other hand: It isn’t some mysterious, possibly mythical, anatomical structure. In fact, many experts believe it is simply the other side of the clitoris.
The G-Spot Is Indeed Real — but It Isn’t a ‘Spot’The confusion here is that many people still don’t know what the clitoris is actually shaped like. It’s not entirely their fault; this has long been an understudied area in health research.
“Female sexual function is very complex and is probably not given enough attention in research or clinical medicine,” says Fiona Reid, MD, an honorary lecturer at the University of Manchester in England. She coauthored a paper on public understanding of female genital anatomy, published in the International Urogynecology Journal in 2021.[1] It wasn’t until 2005 that a study led by the Australian urologist Helen E. O’Connell, MD, mapped the anatomy of the clitoris, Dr. Reid explains.[2]“The thing about the clitoris is it’s actually the same length as a typical penis, but it’s shaped like a wishbone,” says Megan Pollock, a sex therapist certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, who is based outside Houston. The “nub,” as Pollock calls it, which is visible from the outside, is often thought of as the entire clitoris — when really, “it’s just a very small part of it,” she explains.
And you wouldn’t have a G-spot if it weren’t for the clitoris. What has typically been described as the G-spot is “the tissue that separates the vaginal wall from the clitoris,” Pollock says. “And so the clitoris is just on the other side of it.”
Stimulating this area “also might be stimulating the approximate 8,000 nerves that are part of the clitoris,” notes Rachel Needle, PsyD, a codirector of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes in West Palm Beach, Florida. “So the G-spot is just really the internal shafts of the clitoral complex.” A G-spot orgasm, in other words, might simply be the result of a knock-knock-knock on the other side of the vaginal wall.
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Another theory: The so-called G-spot may not be a “spot” at all. Research suggests that what we know as the G-spot might be better referred to as the clitourethrovaginal, or CUV, complex.[3] “In this area, the clitoris, urethra, and anterior vaginal wall interplay, and when this area is stimulated, this can increase or enhance orgasm for some women,” Dr. Rullo says. Think of it more as a G-zone, she adds.Where Is It Located?This “zone” is located on the front (as in, the belly side) of the vaginal wall. To find it, insert a lubricated finger (or two, but start with one) into the vagina. “It’s about two inches up, and the texture of the wall becomes a little frilly,” Pollock explains.
The area is also often described as “spongy” — the point is, the rest of the wall will feel smooth, until you hit this area, which is “dense with nerves and expands when sexual arousal increases,” Rullo says. Again, just on the other side is the “nub” of the clitoris — that visible part often mistaken for the entire clitoris.
Once you’ve located that textured area, you can stimulate it by doing a “come hither” motion with your fingers. You can also instruct a partner to do this, or use a vibrator. “This ‘come hither’ motion might be difficult as a solo endeavor, unless you have a G-spot stimulating toy,” Rullo says. “If you’re exploring your G-spot with a partner, ask them to explore this spongy area slowly, and give them feedback throughout the experience.”
Certain sex positions also make it more likely that an erect penis or sex toy will hit that area. If the female is on top (so the couple is facing each other), you’re more likely to stroke that area during penetration than in other sexual positions, Pollock notes.
In fact, you might have noticed this sensation even if you weren’t looking for the G-spot. Many women “might not identify it as the G-spot, but they notice that when they are on top and being penetrated from below, they feel more aroused because of the angle of penetration,” says Sari Cooper, LCSW, an AASECT-certified sex therapist and the director of the Center for Love and Sex in New York City.
So, What Does a G-Spot Orgasm Feel Like?Because the G-spot orgasm is the result of an interconnection between the clitoris, urethra, and anterior vaginal wall, you could think of this type of orgasm as more complex than direct clitoral stimulation. “Most women report a G-spot orgasm as deeper, internal, full-bodied, and less focused solely on the clitoral area,” Cooper says.
It may also be less intense than a clitoral orgasm — which, for many women, is a good thing. “There are a lot of women who don’t like direct clitoral stimulation,” Pollock says. “It’s too powerful. It feels painful.” Then again, other women don’t like their G-spot stimulated, “so make sure you’re communicating with your partner,” Rullo recommends.
Really, though, you don’t have to overthink this. If you want, go on the hunt for the G-spot, the G-zone, the CUV — whatever you want to call it. But experts advise people not to stress about it.
“If you are curious and want to explore G-spot stimulation, approach the experience with no pressure or expectations, understanding that you might not find what you’re looking for, and that is completely okay,” says Rullo.
